Lately what's been consuming my thoughts is the idea and topic of Soul Mates. What is a soul mate? How do you know? Can you be someones soul mate and are they not yours? When's the right time? How do you pick when your heart and your head are telling you different things? Games???? Honesty? When is being too honest? Is it a bad thing to say what you want and being so full on honest it sounds crazy? What about false realities? Imagining futures and made up situations you want to happen, that could just be fiction? Long distance? And most importantly, WHICH WAY DO YOU SPELL IT. SOULMATE OR SOUL MATE? All in all, it's been a real emotional and mentally exhausting roller coaster over the last week. Since I've been thinking about this and can't seem to find any answers, or insights, maybe I would write about it, in case other people are thinking and feeling the same way. There are things that go around that say, "You meet your forever person in your early twenties", "high school sweethearts", "we accept the love we think we deserve", "you will love only three people in your life time", "be with a man who loves you more than you love him", and that there are different types of soul mates. I don't know if any of that is true. The three types of people you fall in love with
We all think we have been in love. Looking back, I considered my first boyfriend to be my first love. Boyfriends do not equal love. I think it's the image, girlfriends and boyfriends love each other, so all of your boyfriends are love. WRONG Adults always tell us that we don't know what love is. But then its this feeling, of always wanting to see them, the nerves and butterflies, the laughing, the scared feelings when you have that first relationship. Because it's new. I've always felt like those are the only three loves you will ever have. If you go past three boyfriends you'll be alone and die forever. Now I know,
With these loves, there is more than that. There's a difference between loving people, and being in love them. There's a difference in having a special bond and understanding each other and having a connection. These are very different things that feel pretty similar. Some people, may not even experience all of these loves in one life time. Everyones path is different. Look at young moms, look at people who have been divorced, look at the single lady living it up at the party, watch the couple who has been together since 16. Everyone is different. Each relationship is different. But relationships do not mean love even if you love that person. The different types of soulmatesSometimes when we enter a relationship and we have that special bond or connection with someone, we say "you're my soul mate". We all know about soul mates. The ever lasting relationships, the people who get along really well. But each boyfriend you have does not make them your soul mate, they could be your partner, your boyfriend or lover. It doesn't mean soulmate. That word gets thrown around so often to people who are not, and when they the feeling is returned it hurts more than a break up. Being fixed on this term is something that isn't for playing around with. But, soulmates do not have to be romantically involved with you.
Even if you meet one of these soulmates, it can end in heart break. Life is not a happily ever after.Not all soul mates are destined to be forever romances. Not all friends are soul mates. You might never meet your soul mate. If you do, love them unconditionally and break through the barrier. Get rid of fears. Life is short and an adventure, nothing comes easy. So, do you go with your heart or your head? Personally, I say go with your heart. Your head has the logical reasons to be with the perfect person, but if your heart is taken by that bad boy who could hurt you and leave you with nothing, that one date, two weeks, maybe only a few years or miraculously, a whole life time together, is better than giving up because of fear or distance. If both people feel this strange way together, is it meant to be? A soul mate? Why give up if you can find out. The heart wants what the heart wants, and our minds and logical minds can't change that. Safe will always be safe. Having a secure, stable future, is not everything. When we follow our hearts, but take our brains with us, because you do know things couldn't work out, individuals also find a new sense of their person. So, why do we always want what or who we can't have?The chase. The toxicity. Addiction. Obsession. Desire. Lust. Imagining a false reality. When you finally get what you've always wanted, the reward is sweeter from working harder to get what you wanted. But does this work with people? Over investment? When do you learn to forget and move on? CAN YOU EVEN LOVE SOMEONE YOU HAVE NEVER HAD??? Honestly, I don't know because I'm crazy.However, I do know to always pick love. Crazy ends up having the best results. I think if something was meant to be, it will be.. when the timing is right. What about the right person at the wrong time?You know those movies, of the two 85 year olds, running across the world, and finally being in each others arms after 2- or 40 years of being apart? Then they start grossly making out on the screen like grandparent porn? That is rare. But I think it could be possible if you meet the right person. The difference between THE ONE and GOOD GUY?Have you met the one?
The one who sets your soul on fire, and leaves you constantly happy? Is this person honest? Serious? or is he immature? Plays games? but you know he's the one? Can you even think he's the one when you don't know if there's any love there? Or the good guy, the safe guy. Who is always available, emotionally, communicatively. ..... I feel like the one would return it back. and if they don't, is it better to be with the good guy? What about losing them both? It's not fair to the good guy for wanting the bad guy who doesn't even remember your favorite color. If any of you readers figure out the answer, let me know. xoxo
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